5 tips to master the courage to be disliked
1. Do not ever go to the individual directly.
I avoid confrontation at all cost because I am not that brave, and I like to avoid the hurt that I know comes from doing it myself.
Instead, start your confrontation by going to the bully/troll/thug online. Start a blog. Do your homework. Do not just go to their social media pages and say something mean without knowing how they’ll respond. Think about the article you want to publish, or the place you want to speak. Are you risking anything by publicly opposing them?
2. Work through the intimidation and pick the fight.
If you are going to put yourself out there and do something, then you need to know what you are willing to do, and what you are not. Don’t just challenge an individual, but let them know what you won’t tolerate.
When I started The Rude Girl Brigade, I challenged all sorts of speech from women and the beauty industry. People’s jaws were down. I’d get these messages from people telling me I was brave and how inspired they were.
3. This isn’t a publicity stunt
This is your job. Are you qualified? You better be able to prove it.
Funny thing, though, when you challenge people, the very best and most able people come at you and back you up. You gain allies and power, if you stick with it. If you don’t, then you lose it.
Just try doing something that could potentially harm or hurt others and see how long you last. Also, you must be prepared to fail, lose, or be reviled.
I have been confronted by trolls, beauty bloggers, and women on the internet. All of them have dealt with me and have backed me up. In fact, they back me up so hard that I have become a power in the world of beauty blogging.
4. Stay calm, stay polite.
Stay calm, and be polite. Remain composed, but make your points clear.
5. If you lose, lose gracefully.
Never, ever lash out or react out, as people have seen all too often on social media platforms. I made a mistake once, and ended up typing an email to a friend who had insulted me when I should have gone straight to her, but instead I wrote my own letter and replied to her.
It was like speaking to someone on the other side of a screen. I lost control of the conversation. Now I write emails, or if I don’t feel comfortable, I speak my mind on social media, instead.
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Samarth Harsh
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