It’s important to practise self-compassion every day.
To do this, we must turn towards, not away from, difficult feelings and sensations. “Turning towards challenging experiences and responding with self-compassion strengthens and increases our capacity for coping.”
So how can you improve your self-compassion training? Here are a few advices.
1. Check in With Yourself Throughout the Day
Ask Yourself, “What do I need right now?” “The ultimate self-compassionate question” is what it is called. Perhaps you need to relax for a half-hour by yourself, take a nap, or have a comforting talk with a friend. Listening to your needs and then meeting them is a crucial component of self-care.
2. In times of difficulty, find little ways to treat yourself with kindness.
Consider drinking tea, viewing a hilarious video (create a “laughter library” for tough days), journaling, taking quick walks, praying, or meditating. These practices can all calm and energise you.
3. Journal About Times You’re Harsh on Yourself
Make a note of any instances of critical self-talk or judgements about yourself throughout the course of the week. See if you can spot any trends. Then, reflect on how harsh criticism and self-deprecating thoughts have benefited you. And what do I fear will occur if I move them?
4. Invest time in activities you genuinely enjoy.
The enjoyment of joyful activities may be perceived as something you don’t deserve if you are battling with shame. However, every single one of us deserves to partake in enjoyable, inspiring, and exciting activities.
Giving yourself permission to feel authentic happiness—to carve out time in your schedule to pursue your passions—is a kind act.
5. Don’t Give Up If It Doesn’t Happen Immediately
Be aware that developing self-compassion takes time. “It didn’t start yesterday if you find yourself to be self-critical or lacking in self-compassion.” “For whatever reason, it’s probably been something of a lifelong practice that you’ve built up.”
Therefore, expecting yourself to transform overnight would be impractical.
