The likelihood is that you are reading this post for one of two reasons. Either someone has pointed out a pattern of behaviour that you don’t particularly enjoy, or you have a sneaking hunch that you’re getting in your own way.
Nobody wants to acknowledge it, but we all undermine our own lives to some extent. Everyone has taken actions that have put them at odds with a goal they are working towards or a behaviour they want to modify. When we’re conscious of it, that’s okay.
Rebuilding our self-image may be facilitated by learning to identify and halt self-destructive behaviour. Here are some suggestions for quitting self-sabotage:
1. Know yourself .
Learning your triggers and recognising your self-sabotaging behaviours are crucial steps in breaking the cycle of self-sabotage. You might want to pause and consider your actions or look for trends in your behaviour. So, take note of the areas of your life where challenges appear to arise frequently or where you’d like to have greater success.
2. Practice mindfulness.
You can learn more about yourself and develop more self-understanding when you focus your awareness in a non-judgmental manner on some of the triggers or behaviours that result in self-sabotage.
3. Practice acceptance.
By using phrases like “What happened in the past cannot be changed,” you can attempt practising acceptance. I can now respond differently.
4. Reframe.
Some areas of our brains are working to protect us from danger, which is one reason self-sabotage is so prevalent. Change the perspective from “This makes me scared” to “This makes me curious.” You can break the self-defeating loop by retraining the brain to act as a “ally” rather than a “enemy”
5. Become more at ease with failure.
Self-sabotage may result from avoiding challenging tasks out of fear of rejection or failure. You cannot fail if you don’t attempt. In this situation, you unintentionally harm yourself. For instance, in a brand-new, joyful relationship, you could be tempted to act in ways that cause stress (like fighting or becoming furious) because you think it’s just a matter of time until things start to become worse.
These techniques should be able to assist you in living the life you desire if self-sabotage is keeping you from accomplishing your objectives.
